Sundog-
As someone who is married with kids I thought that my spouses input was invaluable when it came time to create a rank list and decide on where we would like to spend the next 5 years. The thing that helped me is that we were within driving distance of most of my interviews, so the family came in with me. I'd go to the social and interview while they would check out the town as a place to live. Obviously if kids weren't in the picture my spouse would have at least attended the social (which I saw many others do at almost every interview).
Marrying your spouse was the most important decision you've ever made- residency will be high up on that list so you better have his/her opinion highly regarded on the matter. That being said, you don't need to break the bank to make that happen. If it is feasible, try to take him/her to the ones that are highest on your list, or if you go back for a second look. That way there is at least some perspective. Good luck.